Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Being Green is not Easy!

Being in a marriage to a sex addict is not easy. I was cheated on by my x husband who should join SA. I have excused my current husband of cheating, one time about 2 months after we were married , I thought he was with a hooker and lost soberity. I convienced myself that when he called me by mistake and I heard a woman's voice and beeping that he was with a hooker but he was at work at a work station with a machine that beeps. Anyhow, I went ape poop on my husband and he even called his work and YES he was there! Anyhow, I suffer from ptsd from my previous realtionships. I go to a therapist who specialized in recovery with Sex addicts and their family members. Here is a link that you and your spouse could use in the recovery of your family  http://www.iitap.com/find_csat.cfm.  There is also S-Anon http://www.sanon.org/ a verison of SA. http://www.sa.org/ .  I have found in my own personal recovery , that I have to work on the issue of  not excusing my husband. I have found that my support with group that is lead by my therapist and S-anon meeting along with therapist appts , that I am working the Steps of S-Anon. Step One - Powerless.  It feels great, but it is not overnight change!